To Post or Not To Post?

All who know me know that I am a Facebook fan.  Being at home with children so much of the time, it is nice to have a connection to the outside world at my fingertips.  I used to log on maybe twice a day, for 10 to 15 minutes at the most.  No games, no lengthy conversations, no “stalking”.  And now, a few years later, I seem to have let it get a bit out of hand.  My life does not allow me to sit for long periods of time, but I find myself leaving my newsfeed pulled up on the screen and then checking it every time I walk past the computer. You know, just to make sure I haven’t missed anything urgent since I last left the room.  Oh and I also discovered Words With Friends.  For a girl who loves word games, particularly Scrabble, this was like stumbling upon Utopia right here in my living room.

I prayed about giving up Facebook for lent, but reasoned in my mind that since I am Southern Baptist this was not really necessary.  Then I prayed about just taking a break, and reasoned that my out of town friends and family would be miserably unhappy if I did not post adorable pictures of my muddy children.  Then I prayed about just giving it up entirely and reasoned that I might lose my sanity if I don’t maintain some sort of connection to life outside the walls of my home.  Obviously, God is pricking my heart about this, but I have been reluctant to obey.  Which is, in fact, disobedience. Ouch.  I do not want to play with disobedience.  I know the end result of that choice all too well.  So what now?  I wanted to write this post just to see for myself in black and white text the negative effects of this growing addiction that I am already aware of:

1.  Comparing myself, my life, to others on Facebook is breeding discontent.  I do NOT do this intentionally.  In fact, I intentionally try NOT to compare my real life with the highlight reel of someone else’s… But I will read about someone’s wonderful vacation, or see a picture of the huge flower arrangement a friend’s husband sent for no reason, and it will just stick in my mind.  I don’t mean for it to stick, but it does.

2.  I have replaced “real” reading with reading snippets and blog posts and quotes via Facebook.  I used to read voraciously.  Now I am lucky to finish a book every 6 months.  There is nothing wrong with the inspirational quotes and messages I find on Facebook, but those things alone are not enough to drive truth deep into my soul.

3.  My quiet times aren’t really quiet.  I often sit at the computer desk to read my Bible and devotional, and it  is nice to be able to look something up online. ( I love BibleGateway, by the way.)  But inevitably I read something profound and my first thought is, “I need to post this on Facebook!” So instead of just spending time with God, listening, I am spending time with God and 540 of my closest friends. Sharing. (If you call it sharing it sounds so much more spiritual, doesn’t it?)

4.  I am not really being real, at least not all of the time.  I have some tricky relationships in my life, just like you do.  And I have been called out a couple times for saying something (unintentionally) that offended someone else.  I am an approval junkie, so this kind of thing can throw me into a tailspin, and make me feel the need to measure every word and possible response before I post something.  I still haven’t fully conquered my “need to please”.  This makes Facebook dangerous territory at times.

5.  Quite simply, it is a huge distraction.  I have a large family.  And a big, old house that needs constant attention.  But instead of working on those little projects that could make my home more lovely, more comfortable, (or just CLEAN), I spend what little free time I have with my butt glued to a chair and my eyes glued to a screen.  And then I feel the dreaded GUILT.   I really hate that emotion.  Hate.  It.

Ok, there you have it.  Five of the many reasons I feel God is asking me to “de-activate”.  I don’t want to. But this is just another way I need to die to myself… It might seem silly, but God works even in the smallest parts of our lives, right?  And even a small disobedience can turn into a BIG consequence.  This I know.  I believe if He is asking me to do this then He has something GOOD in store for me that I will miss if I choose not to obey.  And I have really missed my blog, so this will free me up to write and post more here!  So come visit me here, comment, and let’s hang out.  Just not on Facebook.  🙂


6 thoughts on “To Post or Not To Post?

  1. Kari, you are absolutely right! I had to "change" the way I was using FB. It was not in all the same ways, but in response to the Holy Spirit revealing some truth to me about some of the negatives that were coming from approaching FB in certain ways. Like you, I found myself constantly feeling critiqued, whether that was really happening or not! I love your blog and writing and look forward to your post:)

  2. It sounds as though God has revealed some very important things to you. I admire you for taking this step, and I, too, will be looking forward to reading more blogs.

  3. I can absolutely relate to everything here. I've been feeling the EXACT same way lately. I always seem to justify it, as my blog posts are 'shared' on there and I do 'connect' with others in that way. I don't comment much, as I don't feel that the whole world needs to know my every move, but I do feel like I might 'miss something' if I don't check it every spare chance I get. When I think it's enough, I see another Christian women/bloggers and their posts/status updates are so inspiring. I think, "Well, maybe this is my platform, too. What if something I post or share hits home with a non-believer? I would be taking that chance away if I wasn't here" I have been striving to 'wean off FB' as a source of entertainment, and only use it to encourage. I don't know if I am supposed to give it up entirely, but I do know that it's not that important to me anymore.Thank you for sharing this, you are absolutely not alone in this, right down to the 'lent' thing. I also thought about that (as a Baptist). I didn't do it either, but giving up something for better connection with God is a good concept to me.

  4. Nicole, it is encouraging to know I am not the only one struggling with this… It is hard, like you said, because there are so many positive things about social media! I think for me, it was just becoming more of a distraction, more of a time-waster, than a source (or outlet) for encouragement. I knew God was leading me this way, but I resisted for quite some time. I had a very hard time hitting that "deactivate" button last night! But feel confident that I made the right decision. for me. for now. 🙂 Hopefully I will be able to return to facebook after a nice break, once I get my daily priorities back in order! Blessings!

  5. Kari…I had the same problem and, last August, I closed down my FB page. Yes…I just said NO! It was a huge relief for me. I actually had time for other things. Can you believe it? :o) I started blogging a few weeks later and love that so much more. I recently started a FB page for my blog but I am much more disciplined this time around. I hardly go on and when I do its usually only to post something to encourage my readers or remind them of a post I have up. I use it quite differently these days. God is faithful. God Bless you.

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